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10 Reasons for Breakups

A relationship has to be tended to with extreme care and caution. If not cared for, the relationship would break and would result in the partners leaving each other for good. If you have had a breakup recently and want to analyze what probably went wrong in your relationship, here is a list of ten of the most common reasons for a breakup to occur. The reasons given below are also very important in maintaining a healthy relationship.

1. Infidelity:
The reason that majority of people separate is infidelity. Infidelity is a situation when one of the partners loses interest in his/her better half and likes someone else. It is a phenomenon that has been going on for centuries and the reason that most breakups occur. Nothing would hurt a person more than a cheating partner and accepting someone who has been cheating becomes really difficult. Though some people do accept the situation and try hard to have a happy relationship, most people prefer to split as they have a strong feeling that if someone gets a taste of infidelity, they can never be trustworthy.

2. Inability To Have Babies:
It is every couple’s desire to have their own children. Although the trend of adoption is fast catching up, it can never replace the joy of having your own biological descendant. Many a times a split occurs when even after trying a lot, a couple is unable to have children. It can bring in a lot of tension in the relationship ultimately resulting in cracks to form in the relationship. In the efforts to have a baby, the couple’s sex life may be affected. Consciously or unconsciously, all their actions in bed would lose the passion and would be directed towards just one motive thus making sex mechanical. A time may also come when one of the partners is blamed for the whole issue. Thus, breakup may occur when the couple is not able to have children together.

3. Boredom:
Boredom in a relationship occurs when the relationship becomes predictable. A routine life with no romance, takes away the charm of any relationship. It is very essential to keep the spark alive in your relationship. Once boredom creeps in the relationship, it would probably give a chance for infidelity. Boredom occurs when both the partners are way too busy or way too ignorant about the fact that their relationship needs both time and effort. However, boredom may not kill a relationship directly, but may lead to the breakup happening as a result of one partner ending up straying his/her way from the relationship.

4. Frequent Conflicts:
Another reason that people choose to split is when there is an occurrence of frequent conflicts in a relationship. Frequent arguments and fights cause tremendous mental stress to both the initiator and the victim. When tension levels are high in a relationship, there is no room for love. A couple’s tendency to fight all the time leads to endless nagging, saying hurtful things to each other, constantly trying to prove the other one wrong and other such things. If both the partners are hot tempered, this situation is almost inevitable. It is not denying the fact that the resulting emotion after a fight is always pain and hurt.

5. Independence:
There are some people who love independence and who also believe that they do not need to get any guidance, support or help from any body. If one partner in a relationship is like that, you may conclude that the chances of such a relationship breaking up are high.

6. Abuse:
This is probably the worst way a relationship can end. Mental, physical or sexual abuse is a crime but the saddest part being that people suffering from it seldom come out in the open and break up with their partners. Such persons suffer silently because they do not have the courage to walk out of the relationship. However, there are people who let their better sense prevail and walk out. The abuse they suffer may make them mentally disturbed for a long time.

7. Suspicion:
This is another reason for breakups in the recent times. Trust is the main ingredient of any relationship and it is very difficult for a relationship to survive if there is no trust between the partners. If one of the partners is suspicious about the other, it will invariably show in his/her actions. Suspicions and doubts would lead to constant questioning and tension between the partners. Though sometimes these suspicions do hit the bulls eye, many times there is no truth in them.

8. Addiction:
Addiction is also a reason for a couple to split up. If a partner is addicted to alcohol or drugs and is unable to come out of that, the relationship may break down.

9. No support by one partner:
This is a problem that is faced more by women than men. When a partner gets no support from the other, that could lead to cracks occurring in a relationship eventually leading to a breakup. It is very difficult for one partner to carry on with his/her work, when the other partner is not co-operative. Everyone expects their better half to be their biggest support system and when there is a void there, that may break the relationship.

10. Selfishness:
If one partner is selfish it may lead to break up. Selfish attitude will always result in one partner suffering in order to fulfill the other’s needs and demands. Despite everything, the efforts are never recognized and demands keep increasing. Selfishness does not allow a person to love another apart from one’s own self. This results in the couple breaking up and parting their ways.

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